You meet some of them in college, some are your coworkers and of course there is always the chance you have no clue who they are... (your grooms super close cousin)
A mix of emotions come to mind when ANY bride thinks of her bridesmaids.
I mean come on, there was a whole movie made about how awful bridesmaids can be.
So how much damage can your 5 best friends really do on the most wonderful day of your life?
1) The excuses are endless
You find their dress, the perfect dress. The colors match the flowers perfectly, somehow fits each girl like a glove. Its a real sisterhood of the traveling dress… and yet one of the girls didn’t order it in time. After 3 months of reminding her.. texting, calling, creating a fb group.. she never bought it. Now the dress is out of stock and everyone is out the money and back to square one. Nice going Lauren.
2) Phantom bridesmaid
Life can be crazy, there is no doubting that. However when one bridesmaid isn’t going to go wedding dress shopping, brunches, or even attend the bachelorette party- what is she even doing there? Inviting someone to be apart of your bridal party is a big ask, but it’s also an honor- its very important to understand if YOU are capable of being a good bridesmaid before you accept that invitation!
3) Ms. Know it all
We’ve all seen those episodes of Say Yes to The Dress where that one friend voices her opinion WAY too much. That straight out tells you “that dress doesn't make you look good...” Or that second guesses all of your decisions, your venue, your flowers and is just the resident “naysayer”. STOP IT. It’s. not. your. wedding! There’s absolutely no reason to make this about you.. you'll have your turn, but for now it's mine!
4) No cares given
“Do you like this flower arrangement? Or this one” “uhm does it matter?" OK yes it does matter Rebekka, its my wedding! It is thoughtful of them to not want to control your wedding day, but with 16 million choices to make before the big day, a bride is thinking about her special day all the time, so at least act like you care! Your bride is your friend, how about you start acting like it!
5) Green with envy
This balance is tough, the constant reminder from Sarah that “well if it were my wedding, I’d do pink and gold.”, “honestly Brian should be proposing soon.. and I guess after your experience i’ll know not to use this vendor.” How can a bride put up with this without wanting to pull their hair out? It’s impossible. Again, not your turn, and this isn't about you!
5) Inconsolable Sob Sister
We don't really know why Jessie is crying in the corner, but it keeps happening. Be prepared for the breakdown after four shots of tequila in Vegas. Sometimes weddings are just too emotional, and you just can’t hold it in. But learn how to, because no one wants to deal with a bawling bridesmaid on the big day!
A lesson for both sides!
It's hard to be a bride, everyone knows that but it can be hard to be a bridesmaid too. The chaotic mix of wanting your friend to have the best day possible but also living your own life- is a delicate one.
Consider this a lesson, if you are taking on the task of becoming a bridesmaid.
Please, just be attentive to your bride, be sensitive to how important this day is to her, and the honor that she wanted to share this with you. SHE wanted YOU to be apart of her special day, that means you must be pretty special too.
Brides, just because Sally can’t make your last minute brunch three cities away doesn’t mean she isn’t honored. Or because Janet is struggling financially makes it hard for her to participate in everything that’s planned. Your bridesmaids are going through a lot too, try to understand things from their point of view, too.
Ask your girls for help, ask your groom, ask your family. It is impossible to plan a wedding all by yourself- so don't even try!
Here are some tips and tricks to help get you to your wedding day:
1) DELEGATE. DELEGATE. DELEGATE.
Is your mom a strong bull when it comes to talking to vendors? Some moms have that natural talent for not wavering no matter what a price these people are trying to get from you? This would be such a valuable asset in maintaining a budget.
2) Wedding planning websites, apps, and checklists are all available online.
Whether you’re just starting to plan your wedding, or down to the last details- there is an app for everything. Don't JUST read blogs for inspiration take advantage of apps like WeddingWire that has over 200,000 listings and reviews from real brides. Carats & Cake is a application that will help you find those flowers and decorations in all the Instagram photos you see!
3) Show your appreciation.
You’re going to be stressed out to the max, you won’t even be able to comprehend that Becky answers your phone call at 1am every time even though she works at 6am every morning. Or that Jane has been waiting for Adam to propose for 10 years and is fighting through the jealousy to make this the best day for you.
Now this doesn’t mean that your bridesmaids are the victim of this punishment you call your wedding. They are beyond thankful to be included in your special day, but you should show them that this feeling is reciprocated.
Give your bridesmaids a gift that they will want to wear long after your special day!
Pieces of Me offers a complete bridal collection with cuffs and necklaces all designed with your best friends in mind. A line comprised of traits made to target all types of women. Women who are strong, passionate, loving… (etc).
This is a gift that tells your friends that not only do you care about them- but you truly know them and appreciate them for who they are.
Your bridesmaids are all unique and your friendship with each of them is too. A gift like this is all about who they are and they can wear it everyday to remind them of that special friendship they share with you.